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Unemployment Sucks

16 Jun

Well it’s been a couple of months without a job now. I figured once I had my degree that I wouldn’t have to worry about being unemployed again. What I failed to realize that one of the first budgets cut at many companies are the marketing and communications budgets. It doesn’t help that I’m in the Metro Detroit area, an area with the highest unemployment rate in the country.

In the last few months, several public relations and marketing firms have either closed or been downsized. Because of the area being so dependent on the auto industry, so were many of the firms. When Chrysler pulled their account from BBDO, the ended up closing their Detroit and Windsor offices (almost 500 marketing professionals without jobs). Campbell Ewald recently lost their largest account, Chevrolet. So I wouldn’t be shocked to see lay-offs coming from them soon.

My first month or so was okay. It was nice to have my life back. I had been working over 50 hours a week for almost two years. But now I’m getting bored. My house has been organized. Papers have been filed. Pictures have finally been hung and scrapbooks completed. So I really don’t know what else to do with my time. I can’t do much, because I’m starting to dip into my savings, since unemployment isn’t even half of what I use to make. But I am amazed at how I’ve been able to cut expenses to live within this new budget.

I’ve applied for several jobs, each week I spend hours filling out these long resumes online. So far I’ve only had a couple of interviews and have yet to find a job. The market is so saturated right now. There are people with far more experience than me and willing to take less money right now. So it leaves people like me, just past entry-level, with not a lot of options.

So now I’m trying to decide if I should leave the Detroit area. It’s been the only place I’ve known for all of my life. But I may find more luck somewhere else. But once you’re unemployed, it’s hard to look out-of-state. It takes money and resources that I really don’t have since my savings is starting to go to paying bills.

Or do I take a job that’s not in my field. It has taken me so long to get my degree and I truly enjoy public relations and marketing, but I may not find anything in that area. A few people can find me some clerical jobs, but I thought once I had a degree I wouldn’t be taking phone messages for other people any more. It seems like this would be a delay in my career goals, but at least I won’t be dependent on unemployment and I would be making more money.

Online Dating Ass #1

15 Jun

Starting talking to a pretty decent guy online. For the first couple of weeks we spoke on the phone for hours and sent several text messages everyday. Everything seemed like it was going to be great. When we first started talking, he said he had to go out-of-town for about two weeks. So that delayed our first meeting.

A few days after he came back, he called me and wanted to meet up like right then. Unfortunately, I already had plans and told him that I usually needed more notice. Plus, my profile clearly states that I’m a busy person.

The text messages started coming less frequently, and he completely stopped calling. When I asked what was going on he said he was out-of-town again and busy with work. I was cool with it. I had my own things to take care of in my life.

Unexpectedly a couple of weeks later, on a Sunday afternoon, he sent a text saying lets meet at a downtown bar. Well once again, I already had plans. He then said that I was the one procrastinating on wanting to meet. I told him the ball was in his court since he was always of town or busy with work. When I asked if we could meet during the next week, he said he was leaving town on Wednesday. I suggested Monday or Tuesday before he left, but he said he was going to be busy with work.

We didn’t have communication after that. On Friday, I sent a text to say hi. His reply was “dude don’t text me no more”.  I mean seriously!?!? I’m positive I didn’t do anything, except not be available at the drop of a dime when he wanted. So, if he didn’t like that, then he shouldn’t have answered my profile that stated “busy, independent and spends a lot of time with family and friends”.

I’ve learned that I’m not changing myself for any man. I am looking for someone who will accept me for the person that I am. Don’t expect me to be available for you when ever you want.

No Daddy Issues

15 Jun

I’ll be 30 soon and already feel much older. I’ve usually dated older men, usually because I have more in common with them. The most I’ve gone dating a guy that was 14 years my senior (see My First Online Relationship for details). So I already know what it’s like. What I can’t understand about online dating is all the guys that are 45 and older asking me to go out.

I actually plainly stated on my profile that I wasn’t looking for anyone over 39. Since I know I want a family one day, I don’t really want to waste my time on older guys that have kids my age. I’ve had guys 50 plus asking me out. Sorry, but that is older than my dad! My dad and I are really close and I have no daddy issues.

So I’ve taken the route of not even answering these guys. I don’t feel that I’m being rude, because it’s clearly stated on my profile. I’d prefer to meet a guy my age. But there honestly doesn’t seem to be that many good ones out there that are single, have a job and straight. Doesn’t seem like my standards are that high!

I’ll be 30 soon and already feel much older. I’ve usually dated older men, usually because I have more in common with them. The most I’ve gone dating a guy that was 14 years my senior (please see My First Online Date for details on that relationship). So I already know what it’s like. What I can’t understand about online dating is all the guys that are 45 and older asking me to go out.

I actually plainly stated on my profile that I wasn’t looking for anyone over 39. Since I know I want a family one day, I don’t really want to waste my time on older guys that have kids my age. I’ve had guys 50 plus asking me out. Sorry, but that is older than my dad! My dad and I are really close and I have no daddy issues.

So I’ve taken the route of not even answering these guys. I don’t feel that I’m being rude, because it’s clearly stated on my profile. I’d prefer to meet a guy my age. But there honestly doesn’t seem to be that many good ones out there that are single, have a job and straight. Doesn’t seem like my standards are that high!

Only an Expert on My Life

15 Jun

So as a person that creates social media campaigns for other people and businesses, I know I need to create a strategic plan for myself. I’ve seen Hajj Flemings speak several times about “personal branding”. Other conferences have said that you should use your blog and Twitter to express on what subject matter you are an expert. Well I honestly don’t have much that I think people would have an interest.

I could talk about work, but honestly talking about news trends, social media and healthcare isn’t that fun when you do it all day. Besides there are people much more versed in these subjects than me.

I love social media, but I can’t tell anyone on Twitter how to make their tweets more effective. The people that I follow are already great (so check out some of the people I follow).

So on what subjects am I an expert? I sometimes ask myself that question everyday. But these are the things that I have concluded I know most about:

  • Single and almost 30
  • Living in Detroit
  • Looking for a new job in this economy
  • Media: I love TV, movies, music, reading and the internet

So here’s my life, love it or hate it, I have to live it.