Ugh, I’m turning 30 in just one week. I’m trying to think of it in a positive manner. As Jay-Z said “30 is the new 20”. Plus I figure I start saying I’m 30 now, it won’t be so bad when the big day arrives next week.
But wouldn’t it be great if everything you’ve learned by 30, you had known when you were 20. What I’ve learned about friends, family, relationships, careers, finances would have been wonderful to know 10 years ago. I believe I would have been much better off. I think most of would have. However as one of my favorite quotes says:
“Good judgment comes from experience, and often experience comes from bad judgment.” ~Rita Mae Brown
I probably would have made changes in what I’ve done with my career. I was in school for several years as I worked full time as a secretary. I wish I would have just went to school full time and finished my degree sooner. Most likely I would have progressed much further in my career by this age.
I definaltely would not have been so inpatient or unforgiving of family or friends. It’s taken these years for me to realize to stop sweating the small stuff. Don’t hold grudges, because that person may not be here tomorrow. And it’s hard to apologize once they’re gone. I’ve also learned how to let go of the toxic people in my life and to keep the positive people in my inner circle.
I can say that I wouldn’t have wasted some valuable years on relationships that really weren’t going anywhere, or with that loser guy. Now as I have watched so many of my friends getting married or having kids, I wonder if it will happen for me. But then I know people that have waited until well into their 30’s to get married or have kids, and it seems as though are some of the most stable relationships.
I know I should have invested more money in my retirement account, because there will no money left in social security when I retire. I also wish I wouldn’t have taken out so many student loans, or gotten so many credit cards when I first got to college. I only wish that in lower income school districts that they would have spent time to discuss credit and finances. It seems like the population that could use the education the most on finances, are the people that get ignored.
But every up and down has been a learning experience, and from those I have grown. Now all I can do is try to give others advice on the things I have learned. But as I talk to my teenage brothers and cousins, I often feel I’m being ignored. I guess everyone has to learn from their own mistakes. But I know I would have appreciated someone teaching me a thing or two.